Skype Sessions…..instead of a free telephone consultation, I’m offering skype consultation before booking.

From the comfort of your own home, anywhere in the world…..Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy CBT sessions, from a qualified, accredited via the IAHT and IANPLC and Insured, mind-set coach.

This form of treatment works very well and I have dealt with clients so far in America, London, Isle of Man and just around the corner.

Hypnotherapy…you don’t need to see me in person, just listen to me and get into a very relaxed state of hypnosis which I talk you through.

Life Coaching using CBT, it’s like I am in the room with you, grab yourself a cuppa and we can begin our sessions in the comfort of your own surroundings (work or home).

Skype is a very powerful media and can help you to start living the life you deserve.

I can give you a free consultation over skype so that you can try it, then we can book a session in.  All you need to do is set yourself up on skype, it takes seconds and requires an email address.

So if you or your children need help with:

  • Anxiety
  • Anger
  • Separation Anxiety
  • ADHD, ASD, CAPD
  • Depression
  • Fear
  • Phobias
  • Addiction
  • Goal setting
  • Mindset Coaching
  • Healthy Living

Please do not hesitate to contact me and we can begin without any travel!

Love and Warmth

Amanda

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The dreaded Menopause, a Menopause cake recipe and women uniting!

Most women dread the word menopause. In reality it affects women in completely different ways, but the most common symptoms include hot flushes, sweating, insomnia, anxiety, impairment of memory and fatigue. Long term consequences can include a decline in libido, osteoporosis, heart disease, even dementia – all linked to reduced oestrogen levels.

Typically, a woman’s ovaries stop releasing eggs in her early 50s, and the menstrual cycle stops. Some women can sail through with only the odd hot flush, but others can struggle with symptoms such as weight gain and fluctuating emotions. The physiological reason why the body starts changing is largely down to the drop in oestrogen production and the effect this has on other hormones.

As the ovaries stop manufacturing the hormones oestrogen and progesterone, symptoms may begin. For example, oestrogen helps lift our mood so, when levels drop, we may feel depressed.  Some women opt for hormone replacement therapy (HRT); others try natural remedies. Whether or not you decide to take HRT, following the guidelines below won’t hurt and will assist in the pursuit of an all-round healthy lifestyle.

Did you know that complementary therapies such as Aromatherapy, Reiki and Reflexology help with many of the symptoms caused by the Menopause, leaving you feeling relaxed and mentally prepared to deal with these symptoms and easing them?  Aromatherapy oils used in carrier oils works wonders on dry skin, and simply applied at night can aid such benefits to your skin.

Talking therapies such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a huge success for women peri- menopausal and those in the thick of it, especially workshop based, as a problem shared is a problem halved due to the experiences of the other women sat in the room.

Diet can also help with symptoms, by looking after our gut we can feed the nutrients our body is crying out for and replace those that we are rapidly loosing.

Phyto /plant oestrogens found in certain foods are oestrogenic compounds that bind with oestrogen receptor sites in the body cells, increasing the total oestrogenic effect. By acting in a similar way to oestrogen, they may help in keeping hormones a little more in balance.  A high intake of phytoestrogens is thought to explain why hot flushes and other menopausal symptoms rarely occur in populations consuming a predominantly plant-based diet. Increase your intake of phyto-oestrogens by eating more: soya milk and soya flour, linseeds, tofu, tempeh and miso, pumpkins seeds, sesame seeds, sunflower seeds, celery, rhubarb and green beans.

Because I’m so good to you all, I’ve found a menopause cake recipe, rich is in the above.

Cake recipe:

4oz/100g soya flour
4oz/100g wholemeal flour (replace with more oats for wheat free loaf)
4oz/100g rolled oats
4oz/100g linseeds (flaxseed)
2oz/50g pumpkin seeds
2oz/50g flaked almonds or walnuts or any other nuts
2oz/50g sesame seeds
2oz/50g sunflower seeds
2 pieces of finely chopped stemmed ginger (optional)
8oz/225g raisins or dates or cranberries
½ teaspoon nutmeg
½ teaspoon cinnamon
½ teaspoon ground ginger
15 fl oz/425ml soya milk
1 tablespoon malt extract

Method

  • Heat the oven to 190°C/375°F/gas 5
  • Put all the dry ingredients into a large bowl. Add Soya milk and malt extract, mix well and leave to soak for about 30 minutes to one hour
  • Line a small loaf tin with baking parchment
  • If the mixture ends up too stiff (it should have a soft dropping consistency), stir in some more Soya milk
  • Spoon the mixture into the prepared tin and bake for about one to one and a half hours
  • Test with a skewer to check its cooked properly
  • Turn out and cool
  • Eat one thick slice of Menopause Cake a day. You can slice and freeze as required.

I’d like to host regular workshops for women going through or on the verge of starting the menopause, a chance to share experiences, treatments, what worked, what didn’t and to mentally remain strong during this transition in our lives.

If you would like more information, please do not hesitate to contact me, so we can discuss further.

Love and Warmth, as always.

Amanda

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Laws of Attraction….in your social and work lives.

You attract good or bad experiences based on your thoughts.

The one who speaks most about illness has illness. The one who speaks about prosperity has prosperity, you attract all of it.  By focusing on something, you make it happen.

Thinking about something means you invite it in, even if you don’t want it.

When you think a little thought of something that you want, through the Law of Attraction, that thought grows larger and larger, and more and more powerful. So keep your thoughts positive.

The more you focus on something, the more powerful it becomes.

This allows you to create your own reality by “attracting” the experiences you want to have. You probably brought bad things upon yourself by worrying about them

It’s better to trust your emotions than over-think a decision.

In other words: Listen to your intuition. Instead of overthinking your choices, let your emotions guide you toward what is right and what is wrong. This will result in a more satisfying life.

You can make good things happen more quickly by thinking about them more..

 “Want” and “desire” consist of wanting to focus attention, or give thought toward a subject, while at the same time experiencing positive emotion. When you give your attention to a subject and you feel only positive emotion about it as you do so, it will come very quickly into your experience.

To make a change, you’ve got to see things as you hope them to be, not as they are.

 This is something that successful people know about. It’s also called visualisation. Michael Phelps (Olympic Swimming Gold Medalist) spoke about picturing himself winning every night before bed.

“In order to effect true positive change in your experience, you must disregard how things are — as well as how others are seeing you — and give more of your attention to the way you prefer things to be.”

You can increase your magnetic power by devoting time to “powerful thinking.” each day.

Spend 15 minutes every day thinking hard about your goals, dreams and what you want from life.

Success isn’t a finite resource; everyone can have it.

Others being successful doesn’t limit your success. And by attracting abundance to yourself, you are not limiting another

Don’t allow yourself to wallow in disappointment.

 Being disappointed only attracts more stuff to be upset about and is only a sign that you’re not getting what you want in life. So think about how to get what you want instead of what you don’t have

Avoid TV shows that deal with negative experiences like crime or illness.

Letting this stuff in makes you think about it more and increases the odds it could happen to you. Your attention to anything is drawing it closer to you.

Know that your relationships with people are bad because you made them that way.

 Giving your attention to the negative can wreak havoc on personal relationships. This mentality can help free us from bad relationships with relatives or a spouse. Nothing can come into your experience without your personal attraction to it.

 

Don’t worry about what you’re dreaming; instead use your dreams as a guide.

Dreams might provide some insight into the psyche, but you’re not in the process of “creating” while you’re asleep.

 

Let me help you attract…a happy mind set will open doors, attract the right people and make you the success you long for, in your personal and work lives.

Amanda

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Sleep….why do we need it? And tips to aid sleep.

Although the exact reasons why we need to sleep are not fully understood, research indicates that we as humans are able to live much longer without food than they can without sleep. Along with human beings, every mammal, reptile and bird needs sleep as well. Whilst the precise reasons why sleep is important continue to be a mystery, it is known that while sleeping most of the body’s major organ and regulatory systems continue to actively function. In fact, certain parts of the brain increase their activity significantly and your body produces more of particular hormones. Nobody understands the reason why we sleep although various scientific theories have been put forward. Several experts have suggested that we might sleep due to sheer habit, without any biological basis.

Effect of Sleep on the Brain

Sleep could be a period for the brain to recharge. While asleep, the brain shuts down and repairs neurons and exercises synapses that could gradually break down and weaken with insufficient activity. This might be a period for fine tuning the synaptic connections which get stronger, weaken, break and change. The theory is that sleep is a chance to change those synaptic connections back to their original design after becoming muddled up through the day.

Sleep offers the brain an opportunity to reorganise information, to find solutions to problems, to process fresh information and also to organize and archive memories. The brain reinforces memory and categorises everything learned into a certain order, and removes the useless, impertinent information.

When humans sleep, the brain has the ability to filter events which do and do not affect long term memory. Glycogen levels in the brain are replenished while asleep. Sleep is essential for survival in mammals. For instance, rats will die after about fourteen days with no sleep. Following substantial weight loss, they will be unable to regulate their body temperature and will develop infections. In humans, insufficient sleep results in impaired memory and reduced mental abilities, moodiness, and hallucinations.

Effect of Sleep on the Body

Sleep might also be a period of rest for the heart and lungs. Us humans with normal or elevated blood pressure have a 20-30% decrease in pressure along with a 10-20% heart rate reduction.

Sleep offers the body an opportunity to replace chemicals and repair muscles, various other tissues and aging or dead cells. This may also have an impact on strengthening the immune system.

In children and young adults, growth hormones are released while asleep. Circadian rhythm or a day-night cycle of about twenty four hours has a big effect on the timing, quantity and quality of sleep. A well balanced circadian rhythm results in better sleep. Adult humans need seven to eight hours of sleep each night.

Sleep and Energy Metabolism

While sleeping, metabolic processes decrease as does energy consumption.

Sleep experts have theorised that sleep might restore certain chemicals that are depleted during periods of wakefulness. Researchers have isolated chemical compounds which change while asleep, such as adenosine, which has an effect on metabolic process and fatigue. Nevertheless, nobody has actually pinned down a conclusive chemical explanation for sleep.

Several experts have theorised that sleeping might be an evolutionary instrument to conserve energy while some others suggest sleep offers the brain a chance to process experiences or perhaps to exercise neurological pathways which have lain dormant throughout the day.

Sleep has a therapeutic benefit in that it offers the body and mind the opportunity to revitalise, reenergise, and restore. We all organise long term memory, integrate fresh knowledge, and repair and restore tissue, nerve cells along with other chemical compounds. Furthermore, sleep is of an adaptive nature. As primitive human beings and mammals, it was and is much easier to find food in the daytime and, for mammals, to hide during the night. Furthermore, sleep is a matter of energy preservation. Whilst sleeping, human beings are conserving energy when it would be unlikely to find food if we stayed awake.

Our sleep habits are also controlled by way of a hormonal body clock. Melatonin within the body increases during evening hours helping to make us drowsy. Morning brings a decrease in melatonin concentration. Likewise, daylight helps us to stay awake. When our eyes get strong light waves, the melatonin production is reduced by way of links with our visual system.

The quantity and quality of sleep we have is directly linked to the quantity and quality of our productivity.

Insufficient sleep can result in –

  • Drops in Performance
  • Lack of Concentration
  • Reduced Reaction Times
  • Problems in Grouping Learned Information
  • Lapses in Memory
  • Accidents and Injuries
  • Behavioural Problems and Mood Swings

So this list alone is enough reason to get into the habit of sleeping.

Some tips for you:

1. Keep regular sleep hours

Going to bed and getting up at roughly the same time every day will programme your body to sleep better. Choose a time when you’re likely to feel tired and sleepy.

Routine for children is really important especially if you have a child that struggles with sleep.

  • Tea at a set time (think about what you are feeding them…..sugary, fatty foods will not aid sleep, whereas vitamin enriched, omega, protein and mineral fuelled food will encourage their organs to recharge as they sleep)
  • TV or leisure for an hour before bed (nothing too stimulating)
  • Bath/Shower
  • Read a Book together in bed
  • White noise is powerful…have you ever led in bed listening to the rain tapping on your window, making  you feel safe and warm…you can get jungle noises, woodland noises, rain, meditation music which you can put on as you leave to aid sleep within a child.
  • Sleep – you can have a diffuser on with lovely calming oils that also doubles up as a night light.

Our lives can sometimes interrupt a regular routine….but I promise once you have one the child that didn’t sleep, will eventually fall into slumber as it’s been trained to do so.

If lack of sleep is still a problem after a month of practice, please seek medical or professional help.

2. Create a restful sleeping environment

Your bedroom should be a peaceful place for rest and sleep. Temperature, lighting and noise should be controlled so that your bedroom environment helps you to fall (and stay) asleep.

If you keep all your paperwork and bills in your bedroom, this will not aid sleep and may bring your attention to this pile whilst trying to sleep….your bedroom is for sleep…amongst other things ;0).

If you have a pet that sleeps in the room with you, consider moving it somewhere else if it often disturbs you in the night.

Also having a young child sleeping with you will disturb their sleep as well as yours.  At some point you have to make the decision that your child sleeps in their own room.

3. Make sure your bed is comfortable

It’s difficult to get restful sleep on a mattress that’s too soft or too hard, or a bed that’s too small or old.

I can vouch for this!! We have just replaced our mattress and I am sleeping 10 x better than I was before!

4. Exercise regularly

Moderate exercise on a regular basis, such as swimming or walking, can help relieve some of the tension built up over the day. Make sure that you don’t do vigorous exercise, such as running or the gym, too close to bedtime, though, as it may keep you awake.

Yoga can also aid sleep, there are many levels to Yoga and it’s about finding one that fits you.  Power Yoga in the morning will set you up for the day, whereas calm stretching and breathing Yoga in the evening, with essential oils, will set you mind up for sleep.

Also invest in yourself…Reiki, Massage….therapy – talking therapies will help you sleep as you talk about your unfriendly thoughts.

5. Cut down on caffeine

Cut down on caffeine in tea, coffee, energy drinks or colas, especially in the evening. Caffeine interferes with the process of falling asleep, and also prevents deep sleep. Instead, have a warm, milky drink or herbal tea.

If you have coffee at work, stop at 3pm, giving you enough hours before bedtime to process the caffeine in your system.

6. Don’t over-indulge

Too much food or alcohol, especially late at night, can interrupt your sleep patterns. Alcohol may help you to fall asleep initially, but it will disrupt your sleep later on in the night.

You know this right….? when you fall into your pit and sleep fairly easy only to awake at 0200 or 0300 feeling really uncomfortable and with a banging headache…your organs are working overtime to process the alcohol and fat….this should be the time that they rejuvenate.

7. Don’t smoke

Nicotine is a stimulant. Smokers take longer to fall asleep, they wake up more frequently, and they often have more disrupted sleep.

8. Try to relax before going to bed

Have a warm bath, listen to quiet music or do some gentle yoga to relax the mind and body. Listen to some meditation or meditating music, loads on You Tube.

9. Write away your worries, replace with gratitude

If you tend to lie in bed thinking about everything you have to do tomorrow, set aside time before bedtime to make plans for the next day. The aim is to avoid doing these things when you’re in bed, trying to sleep.  Also, get yourselves a gratitude journal, those worries will dissipate as you realise what you are thankful for.

10. If you can’t sleep, get up

If you can’t sleep, don’t lie there worrying about it. Get up and do something you find relaxing until you feel sleepy again, then go back to bed.  A warm milky drink, and listening to meditation or meditation music, no films that are violent with fast action.  Read a book, this will make your eyes tired, in low level light.

If lack of sleep is persistent and affecting your daily life, make an appointment to see your GP.

As always I hope this helps…..you know where I am.

Love and Warmth

Amanda

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How can we help our children learn to love themselves…..

To me, the saddest thing in the world is self-hate among our young children and teens. At a young age, we need to be taught how to love ourselves and be at peace with our bodies. If we don’t reinforce this kind of positivity, our children will live their whole lives being uncomfortable with who they are.

Words can hurt our children a lot more than we think. Sometimes, words are more painful than a slap in the face. What’s even worse is that they stick with us and seem to linger in our minds forever.  I remember a situation myself where I was craving attention, I simply said something like “That girl is prettier than me” the response I got was “Yes she is, and I bet she doesn’t crave compliments…”  It completely took the wind out of my sales…they’d caught me out on my quest for attention and insulted me at the same time, I was 10, and that one comment has stayed with me my whole life as it was so cutting and unbelievable that a parent could say this, especially mine. So be mindful something you might have said or going to say, could haunt your child for the rest of his or her life. In your anger, you must be careful with your words. Your day might not be going well, but it gives you no right to hurl insults or direct your anger toward your children. A little joke or tease might sound funny to you, but can really wound somebody else.

We must teach our children how to love themselves before they love other people. It may seem selfish, but they need to know how to put themselves first. Once they are comfortable with themselves, that is when the healing process begins. Once they are at ease with their bodies, that is when they may open themselves up to others without feeling shame or embarrassment.

Our duty as a parent is to harvest self-love in your child.  Learning from our experiences, positive and negative, this is our chance to get it right, and wipe the slate clean as to what ever has happened to us before.

Ask your child the following questions:

  1. If you havseparated:  Do you ever feel like you’re the only child who lives with only one parent or whose parents live apart? When do you feel like that? What can we do to make you feel less alone?
  2. It’s important to know what you’re good at and to remind yourself about these good qualities. What do you think you’re good at? Do you ever remind yourself?
  3. Have you ever failed at something and then felt like you weren’t good at anything? What did you do?
  4. Some children feel better when they play with their friends, even if they are feeling down or bad. What can you do when you’re not feeling good?

What we need to help our children build upon:

Realistic goals
A child’s self-esteem is helped by success and harmed by failure. Help your children set goals that they can really reach. Help them feel successful. Children need goals that fit and work into their lives. Help your child meet a goal by taking small steps. Only one child can be the fastest runner in the class. But every child can run around the park minute faster than before, and most children can work toward that goal a little bit at a time. Five seconds faster next week, five seconds faster the next week and so on.
Children also need to know how to deal with failure. Sometimes even the best children will not be able to meet some goals. Help your children learn something about themselves even when they fail. The only total failure is when they don’t learn anything from failure. When children don’t do well at school, they can learn to study more for tests or they may try some new study skills. When children do not succeed, help them look at what they did and find ways to do things differently next time. Remember to praise them for trying.

Being perfect is never the goal. And trying to be perfect all the time is a sure way to fail. Just help children try to do better.

“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength. ” – Arnold Schwarzenegger

Coping with tough times
Children also have those days when they feel frustrated. They tried to do something good and it didn’t work. Children must learn how to handle these times so that they don’t dislike themselves and let themselves become the enemy. When your children are feeling down, see if they would like to do something special for themselves. Remind them to treat themselves with kindness and love. People will treat you better if you treat yourself well.
You may know of other ways to remind children that they are worth caring about. Sometimes it helps them to be with other friends or family members that they like. Or perhaps they can think of something to do for someone else. Many times it helps to think about the needs of others and to help another person. It reminds us that we are important and have much to offer, even on a bad day.

“A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.” – Christopher Reeve, the original superman who fell off a horse and was paralysed, ending his career as an actor, but went on to be a motivational patron.

Building self-esteem
In order to see themselves in a positive way, children must be able to see their strong points. Self-praise is basic to positive self-esteem. Children don’t praise themselves without help — it won’t happen automatically. Parents can help children think in positive terms by helping them see their strong points and talents. For example, at dinner or at the end of the day, ask your child, “What did you learn or do well today?” If you know about a success, you could say, “How do you feel about what you’ve done today?” or “I bet you feel good about what you did!”

Teaching children to praise themselves does not mean that you are teaching the child to brag. Bragging puts other people down: “I’m the fastest kid in my class.” “I’m better at math than anybody else.” Self-praise compares the past to the present (then and now). For example, “I can run a lot faster this year than last year,” or “I’ve really improved in maths.”

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” – Buddha

Feeling “down”
Like all of us, children have those days when they don’t feel good about themselves. Nothing has gone right at school or a best friend said something mean. Let your children know that you care about how they are feeling. Try to spend time alone with each child every day. It could be when you’re in the car and the child is in the front seat with you. Or as you put each child to bed. Many parents find it important to have a little time alone with each child.

Remind them that everything we face in life, we need to look at it right in the face and make a choice…a choice to give up OR a choice to learn from the experience and not let it happen again.
“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me… You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.”  – Walt Disney

I hope this helps.

I will be at the Royal Beacon tomorrow 1st October, doing a talk on CBT at 1:15pm, please come and say hello.

Love and Warmth, as always.

Amanda

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Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – work, rest and play…young and old, how it can work for you?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is mainly talked about with regards to helping mental health and moving forward, throwing away negativity and looking life face on with the knowledge, do you know what, I’m OK…..

CBT can be with you for the rest of your life and can benefit those who are already driven, steering clear of the hurdles they face or just jumping faster and higher, smashing the competition as you have a gift and a knowledge…and that is CBT.

Let’s start with children, CBT is fabulous when working with children as it makes sense to them….Why do I want to think this way? When I can actually think this way…light bulb moments, as they haven’t learnt their cynical side yet, it maybe creeping in, but they recognise it as an unfriendly thought and dismiss it.

The use of CBT in schools can help with a whole manner of day to day tasks a child will face:

Friendship issues – does this friendship make me feel happy? No….ok, I no longer have to listen to them anymore, I want positive friends who make me feel good about myself….. easier said then done I hear parents/carers cry…watch the light bulb moment happen when I coach your children, all through talking and listening.

Learning challenges – helping a child to see where they need support, what sort of learner they are and to speak up when needing help (by listening to a child’s prospective of their learning can really help to find the correct learning styles to help them)….some children are frightened to ask for help for fear of being told off, but it’s really important that they learn that if they don’t understand something…that’s OK, and teachers and teaching staff will be able to explain in a way that they do understand.  And did you know grown up’s have to put their hand up too….

As a parent you can tell the class teacher that they have said they are frightened to put up their hand and why, so when they do pop their hand up, the experience is a positive one from the teaching staff, they can also encourage the child to ask for help.

Being Unique – I always do an impression of a robot when I see children for coaching sessions, I get mixed reviews and won’t be making my way to the next Star Wars movie, BUT it helps resonate with them how boring it would be if we were all the same, and being unique makes the world go round…..Steven Hawkins- he’s unique, Lady Ga Ga she’s unique…. embracing their uniqueness and empowering others.

Unique people are capable of this and just have to be taught the coping strategies needed to sell their talents.  Not made to feel the “odd one out” and not letting anyone make them feel that way.

As you get older throughout school life, things get a little more complicated…..relationships, learning, hormones….life in general can feel confusing at times….CBT at it’s most powerfulness…..

Is it a thought or a fact……? That simple sentence can help anyone through out life, but really powerful if learnt at a young age.

Thoughts overwhelm us at times and can stop us from living the way we deserve.  Teenagers are in a world of social media, being told how to look, what to wear, how they should be……this is not real and it’s teaching them to recognise that; you can not live up to these ideals and it’s exhausting trying to and….. you will fail……..Trying to compete with something that isn’t real…..

As with younger children, finding out who they are as a person is so important as to the path they take, embracing the positivity’s in their world, even if they can’t see them right now….

Stripping back and starting again, re building the wonderful person they are, always have been and will continue to be and grow –  by recognising that the stuff they thought was important doesn’t actually matter in the grand scale of things, the one thing that does matter in life…………..

I like and love myself…… this will bring you success in life.

How can you use CBT in work?

By really understanding what a person wants…

In a sales/customer service role:

Your customer….who are they?  What makes them tick?  What hobbies do they have? Family? Holidays?….build up a profile, ask the right questions, talk to them……..LISTEN, believe…..sell!  By turning a persons thought process around….. for example:

You want to sell  a car…..but the client on the forecourt is saying they don’t want one…..is that a thought or a fact?  At the moment that is a thought, but at what point does it become a fact?  I want you to think about that…..even if they walk away, has this turned into a fact or is it still a thought?  Are they or aren’t they going to buy?…….Even at this point it is still a thought…..because the fact is he/she owns a car and at some point he/she will replace it…..you’ve just got to convince him/her it’s now……why else would they be on your forecourt?  Listen to them and I mean really listen ” When you off to France?”,  “Are you driving?”  Hook!!  “You are….aaah that’s a long way important you are comfortable for that journey, fuel consumption is going to be important too, do you think that’s what had brought you here today?”…….belief and knowing what is a thought and what is a fact IS a winning combo to success.  It’s a huge motivator and something that can be taught in a little more depth… ….this gives you an insight and obviously doesn’t show the work that has gone into get them on to the forecourt and conversations that have taken place.  But belief will get you that sale.

This is a brief blog on CBT used in all different aspects of your life….if you want to discuss further, please do not hesitate to contact me on 07920 840 230.

Come along to the Health and Happiness Event on Sunday 1st October @ The Royal Beacon Hotel, Exmouth.

I have the following FREE coaching slots available on Sunday @ The Royal Beacon:

  • 11 am
  • 11:40am
  • 3:00pm

Let me know if you would like one of these….we can then start your journey.

Love and Warmth,

Amanda