John: “They probably think that I’m not that good, so no point me asking about that promotion.”
Actually what the employer is thinking:
” I’m so surprised John hasn’t been to see me about the customer service role, he’d be ideal.”
Thoughts can actually stop us moving forward, where as facts can help us to move forward. John may have gone to his boss and been told he wasn’t ready for the promotion, but he did not know that would definitely happen. So take the plunge, as long as you are prepared and have all your “ducks in line” there’s no reason for a negative response.
And keep saying to yourself “Thoughts are not facts!”